Have you heard about the new trend in dating? G.H.O.S.T.I.N.G.
In fact I’m pretty sure it’s thousand years old and only new to me, because it seems that every girl has been there. Every single girl I talk to answers “yes” when I ask them if they’ve ever been ghosted by a boy. Because a man won’t do that.
“I’ve been ghosted by that guy I started to really like when I thought everything was going fine between us.” Sounds familiar?
We’ve all been there. It happens every time. You see him for a few times and everything goes perfect along the way. You like his smile and his eyes. He texts you all day every day. He makes you laugh, he seems comfortable with you, you make him dinner, he invites you to his place. And all of the sudden, he just disappears without giving any reason.
No more texts, no more smileys, no more activity on his FB profile. It’s like he’s dead or something. Maybe he got abducted by the extraterrestrial delegation of single boys afraid to commit.
Speaking of communication, can I tell you how sick I am about living virtual relationships? You asked me my phone number, so use it to call me for God’s sake. And if we’re having a text messages conversation, please at least say hello and goodbye like you’d do in real life. As far as I’m concerned, “Seen Sun 9:31pm” doesn’t mean “have a good night”.
Maybe I do something wrong, but I just can’t figured it out. Because when I finally get an answer (I always try to find out what happened), they all tell me “you’re such an interesting girl with good values and I‘m sure it could work between you and me because you’re perfect, but it’s not you, it’s me.” Yeah, right.
I don’t wanna be the desperate girl checking her phone every 30 seconds, but God it’s so hard being in this I-don’t-know-what’s-going-on situation. At that stage, you can’t even say you two have been seeing each other. It’s way too early in the relationship. If there is a relationship.
What’s going on in his brain after the third or forth date? “She’s very sweet and we have a lot in common and great times together, but no.” Hey, couldn’t you see that on the first date? Because I can see those things on a first date. In the first 60 seconds I know if I’m gonna like him or not. I can feel it. Maybe guys have some problems with their emotions. Maybe once they got what they wanted they just move on to another girl. Emotions don’t guide their actions. Something else does. Something just below the waist. And I am guided by my heart, that’s the problem.
I know, men aren’t all the same, but it’s a bit difficult not to put them all in one basket. I’m working hard on staying positive. A Chinese biscuit told me last Friday: your perseverance will pay off soon. So let’s move on to the next one. Wish me a real man for this time!